Revelations, they appear out of nowhere.
Sometimes they appear when you are with your new danish boyfriend, at a party, in his country, with his friends you are meeting for the first time. You find it easy to make conversation with his friends. They know you from what the boyfriend has told them of you. There are no small talk hoops to be jumped over, the conversation is comfortable, familiar.
And then you think he really loves me! It strikes you then and you wonder why you didn’t notice this before. If you had known this trick earlier and been more observant, fewer frogs would have been kissed.
If you meet your boyfriend’s mates for the first time and they have never heard of you, its probably a bad sign. “But he is a rather private person”, might offer some comfort, but we all know that men like to discuss things they consider important – money and women. Especially women they really like.
On the other hand, if you meet your partner’s friends for the first time and they know about you, chances are he really likes you. He may still turn out to be an asshole, but at least he will be an asshole who likes you.
But you should probably start to worry if his friends know too much about you and if they go * grin*wink*nudge* around you.
My husband and most of his friends are exceptionally closed mouthed about their girlfriends and wives. With one friend, we need to do quite a bit of detective work and suspect the presence of girlfriend for months before we finally get to meet her – and even then, we might, just might only know her name, but then I guess us meeting her must mean that he’s serious about her.
Yeah, I think I got one of those. I’ll leave it to astute readers to guess what kind I mean.